SAN DIEGO (CBS 8) - The wife of a San Diego police officer accused of domestic violence is standing by her husband and thinks SDPD should do the same.
"I don't think they should suspend him, I believe they should be there for him,” said Tanya Lorenzo.
La Mesa police arrested Gilbert Anthony Lorenzo, 31, Tuesday on a domestic violence call involving his 24-year-old wife.
His wife says the situation has been blown out of proportion."We were arguing and he pushed me out of the way and he did leave a mark on my face,” said the wife. “I do feel responsible because I was aggravating him and there was arguing going on."
On Wednesday, SDPD Chief Shelley Zimmerman said the department is fully cooperating. Lorenzo was stripped of his police powers and put on suspension without pay.
The wife believes the San Diego Police Department could have done more to help her husband get through the stresses of the job including losing an officer who was a friend.
“I’m trying to be there for him. I feel like really the police department is throwing him under the bus when they should be helping him,” said Tanya Lorenzo.
The officer has been on the force for seven years and is a former Marine. He has been married for four years and they have three children together from ages 18 months to eight-years-old.
The wife says the department doesn’t pay enough and it’s tough to raise a family without family support.
“It’s not him 100 percent. We both have been going through it,” said the wife. "He's never abused me, he's a very calm person, but lately he's been under a lot of stress."
Neighbors told CBS News 8 they would hear Lorenzo yell at his wife. Tanya Lorenzo says she is unaware neighbors could hear anything but earlier this month she posted on her Facebook page, "I get yelled at everyday (sic)."
She says it is a stressful time for their marriage.
"Maybe it had to do with the fact, that I’m under a lot of stress like every other wife,” said Tanya Lorenzo.
She also put into context a Faceboook post from last week, "Thank god I'm free!!!!! If only people could see behind closed doors... they would be shocked."
"He watched them [kids], I was able to leave the house. I felt free, I felt happy. I’m a stay-at-home mom," said Tanya Lorenzo.
She hasn't spoken to her husband since he was arrested but says she will stand by him.
"I don't give up on anybody, no matter how bad things are,” said the wife.
SDPD has a wellness unit that helps officers with personal and professional issues.
The wife would not say who called police about the domestic call. She did not go to the hospital for her injuries.
Lorenzo is out on $50,000 bond and will be arraigned on April 30.
If you are a victim of domestic violence or know someone who is call the YWCA Domestic Violence 24-hour anonymous hotline at 619-234-3164.